Did You Know?

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Did You Know?

  • You are not alone. One in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage in the first trimester.

There are resources available for infertility and repeat miscarriage.

  • A miscarriage is a baby lost prior to 20 weeks gestation.

A baby lost after 20 weeks gestation is considered a stillbirth and needs a death certificate.

  • You can name your baby.

If you do not know if the baby was a boy or girl, you can name the baby based on what you feel your baby is.

Some people give the baby a boy and girl name if the sex was not known. (example: Michael Mary)

You can give your baby the name of the saint whose feast day they died on.

  • You can bury your baby.

Before burial, make sure you know your state's guidelines. Some states do not have guidelines for burial.

Some cemeteries have a dedicated section for babies lost prior to 20 weeks gestation.

Some people get permission from the cemetery to bury on the same site as a parent's or relative's grave.

If you bury on a relative's grave, some cemeteries will allow you to place a small stone or plaque on the existing

monument if you want to mark the site.

  • If you miscarry in a doctor's office or hospital, you have the right to bring your baby's remains home with you.

If possible, before going to the hospital and/or receiving anesthesia, let staff know what your wishes are, sign any

necessary paperwork, and determine if you need/can bring a burial vessel with you.

  • If your baby is sent to a lab for testing, you have the right to have your baby's remains returned to you after the testing is finished.

A funeral home may have to pick your baby's remains up from the hospital if the lab will not release them directly to

the family. There may or may not be a fee for the funeral home services. Many funeral homes provide free services

for babies.

  • If you did not bury your baby, do not feel ashamed or guilty. You did nothing wrong.

There can be a lack of information given to women regarding the option to bury. You were in a difficult circumstance and made the best decision you could with the knowledge you had.