Did You Know?

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There are resources available for infertility and repeat miscarriage.


A baby lost after 20 weeks gestation is considered a stillbirth and needs a death certificate.


If you do not know if the baby was a boy or girl, you can name the baby based on what you feel your baby  is. Some people give the baby a boy and girl name if the sex was not known (example: Michael Mary). You can give your baby the name of the saint whose feast day they died on.

Before burial, make sure you know your state's guidelines. Some states do not have guidelines for burial.

Some cemeteries have a dedicated section for babies lost prior to 20 weeks gestation.  

Some people get permission from the cemetery to bury on the same site as a parent's or relative's grave.

If you bury on a relative's grave, some cemeteries will allow you to place a small stone or plaque on the existing 

    monument if you want to mark the site.


If possible, before going to the hospital and/or receiving anesthesia, let staff know what your wishes are, sign any

necessary paperwork, and determine if you need/can bring a burial vessel with you.

A funeral home may have to pick your baby's remains up from the hospital if the lab will not release them directly to the family. There may or may not be a fee for the funeral home services. Many funeral homes provide free services for babies.


There can be a lack of information given to women regarding the option to bury. You were in a difficult circumstance and made the best decision you could with the knowledge you had.